This is the feminist side of me.

Today I read this article about men & their feelings of plastic surgery.
(this is the article) <-- you should read it.
It made me feel really great in the skin that I'm in. I don't think I'd ever consider that kind of surgery, but hearing encouragement for women to keep their real bodies is nice. It takes the pressure off of having to be perfect- and I think guys don't always realize what kind of pressure there is in being a woman. Having to be a caring, loving girlfriend without giving everything. Making sacrifices without sacrificing everything. Making changes to fit a relationship without changing or compromising ourselves. Being understanding and easy going without being walked on. Being able to fool around and not be frigid without being called a slut. There are so many double standards women deal with and there's no way we can deal with it without guys sneering and calling us "a bunch of crazy, bra burning feminists"


Lately (and for a good part of my life) I have been (can be) irritated with men in general. It is so irritating growing up in a man's world.
Guys get irritated with women saying this, but the reason we say it is because it's true. This is a man's world. I have been in several female ensembles where some seriously difficult music was pulled off beautifully- and the male ensembles are still crowd favorites just because they're men and seeing them sing is cool. How frustrating knowing their music is one fourth the difficulty of what you just performed.

Guys can fool around with as many girls as they like and can be called a pimp. A girl gets a little action and she gets called numerous things with negative connotation. There seems to be some differentiation between the women you marry and the women you date or fool around with. It is more socially acceptable for a man to have lost his virginity than a woman.
Why?

I won't even touch the subject of periods and childbirth.

And why doesn't this social standing change? Why, for centuries, has our culture focused on the strengths and feats of men and not women? For the same reason the U.S. doesn't give up its WMAs: It's nice to be on top.






postscript: I would love to have a real discussion with men about this. Most men cringe from this subject because it's one women get passionate about. If you are a man & reading this, I would love to hear, er...read your feedback. A while ago a friend told me they don't know how to comment. Below this entry it should say "0 comments" (because no one is adding them!) and will allow you to add a comment. You can choose a number of options for commenting, from anonymous to just your name to an account.
This is a discussion topic, just say something