and I'm not talking about Monopoly and Scrabble.
When you're on the outside looking in, you see things much clearer than you'd sometimes like to. I am seeing so many of my friends being taken advantage of, being played, being led unter false pretences and there's nothing I can do about it. I can warn them or inform them of what I'm seeing, but it does nothing if they don't see it too.
The most aggrivating of these games that I'm seeing right now is the "I'm using you for sex" game, and the "I am waiting until you take me back" game.
And it's especially bad when I see girls play games: I am a girl, I know how we're wired, and I know how to play those games.
But I'm not the referee. I just have to sit here and shut up and watch people get hurt (they've got to make their own mistakes) or be led on (I guess they'll figure it out eventually)
It just bothers me because I feel like I'm not being a good enough friend. I feel like I could prevent this pain, I can help them...but I can't.
So here's to 3 of my friends: You know I love you. You know I'm always here for you, and I'm just worried about the way you're being treated right now. I don't wantn to see you hurt and I don't want to see you played.
Yes, he's using you for sex.
Yes, she's been doing stuff with her ex-boyfriend for the last few months and isn't "just with you".
Yes, she has expectations to be more than just you friend.
I'm certainly not omniscient, but I am observant. And that is what I gathered. I just wish I had the guts to tell you these things for real, even if you hated me.
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Sorry that I haven't been replying lately, being out of the country will do that to a person. By the looks of it you've been having an interesting couple of weeks now haven't you.
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It's hard being that person. The person that has to tell a friend something they really don't want to hear. I'd say, unfortunately unless it is absolutely necessary to force them to understand, don't. Make your opinions known then leave it alone and be there for them when they fall apart, without saying "I told you so" if at all possible.
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